"You’re judging him based on how he looks - That’s so shallow"
"No it’s not"
That was the conversation that went down between one of my besties and me this weekend while we were downtown. This guy had walked up to me, and introduced himself. We started talking and throughout the conversation my friends would come up and “save me” - to which I’d turn and say “I’m fine.” After awhile I could tell that our conversation was starting to drone on and on and my group wanted to leave the bar we were at. The guy proceeds to ask for my number, to which I courteously declined and then was literally pulled by the arm out of the bar.
I appreciate my friends for feeling the need to intervene on my behalf, but the truth of the matter is, I wasn’t creeped out by the guy or anything. He was actually nice and we talked about school. He’s from Philidephia, is a Chem-E Major (*sexy), and had been at a friend’s place on North Campus earlier that evening (lol. topics we covered in our conversation). All in all the conversation was fine he wasn’t overtly rude, assertive, or even rude after my friends had pulled me away without a proper goodbye. MY PROBLEM is, after we left two of my closest in the group began scolding me in away with “GRACE! NO!!”s and “NUH UH!”s and of course the “HE’S NOT EVEN CUTE!”
Seriously friends? How superficial can you be? We were just talking - not that his appearance should be any indicator as the the quality of personality he possessed. Sigh. Makes me sad because I know my friends know better and were probably just super intoxicated but still. What happened to the idea that conversations and interactions between people have the potential to be inherently altruistic?
Even after I made it clear that I wasn’t romantically interested in this guy, he still invited me to a lunch. I think that’s nice. And I don’t care what people think, I think it takes a lot of courage to even approach people sometimes - regardless of intentions.